When someone hurts you, the need to get even can feel overwhelming.
The only problem with that reaction is that you can leave a lot of collateral damage in your wake. That’s why you might hear someone say that hurting people tend to harm others the most.
Once you get beyond that initial shock, a defensive mechanism starts. You decide that the best way to prevent getting hurt again is to stop trusting anyone except for yourself.
You may put up physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual walls to block others out of your life. Although it feels lonely, that emotion is better than the pain someone else inflicts.
Learning how to trust again isn’t easy, but it is possible to do it.
Trust Yourself Again
A lack of trust in other people is often a reflection of low self-esteem or self-confidence. It says that you don’t know that you’ve got a handle on what life can throw your way. No one can make you feel anything without your permission to let them, which means you are always in control. Put yourself in the driver’s seat of your life.
Let Go of the Fear
People who abuse your trust don’t deserve a second thought. The only problem is that those individuals might be your singular focus point. People who cheat, take advantage of you, break your heart, or abandon you are toxic. Let them go. It is scary to meet new people because they might do the same, but those individuals deserve a fresh start.
Stay Put Where You Are
When someone has a history of people leaving them, it is challenging to put faith in a stranger. Why continue to go through love and loss when you can manage the days by yourself? If you stay put, it is easier to encourage others to do the same. You can’t control what other people do, so accept that sometimes life may pull you apart. That’s not your fault.
Earn Trust from Others
The issue you face with trust might reflect your guilt or regret from hurting someone else. Although cheating can devastate a relationship, the negative consequences can impact both individuals. You may need to prove to yourself that you can earn trust from others.
Trust can happen again, but it won’t appear like magic. You must push forward each day to earn it from yourself and others.